What Are You Really Keeping It For?

What Are You Really Keeping It For?

During the pandemic, my wife and I retooled our home library with four 79" x 31" IKEA shelving units. We wanted a dedicated space for the books we'd — well, she'd — accumulated over the years, the kind of thing that makes a house feel more intentional. The books were already in other shelving units, which worked more or less, but they were of varying sizes, styles, and ages, and together weren't enough to hold everything we owned. It felt like a productive and satisfying project for a time when just leaving the house was a major production in facial coverings, hand sanitizers, and social distancing.

After assembly and bolting the units to the wall, my wife and I were loosely arranging books onto the shelves when she came across a stack that were mine. Business books, mostly. The kind with titles about building systems, scaling companies, developing leadership, finding your market. She asked if I was still interested in keeping them. I looked at them and said yes, with the greatest amount of indifference I could summon.

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The books came from a specific period in my life — the years between businesses, when I was in transition and accumulating things that felt like preparation. If I read enough, learned enough, absorbed enough from people who had figured out what I hadn't yet, maybe the next attempt would go differently. The books arrived one or two at a time, over several years, bought with genuine intention each time.

I never read them. Well — I did read a few of the leadership books. Lincoln, Churchill, that kind. But the rest? Better at collecting dust than collecting well-read and referenced pages.

I'd get as far as the first few pages, maybe, or skim the introduction — which is probably what got me to buy them in the first place. Then I'd take them home, where they'd end up on a shelf, or in a box, or on the back of the toilet. They moved with me from place to place, waiting to be read each time. And when my wife held them up and asked the question, I couldn't let them go.

I told myself it was because they were still relevant. Business principles don't expire. The fundamentals don't change that much. Someday, when I had the time and the right project in front of me, I'd sit down and actually read them.

That someday was already twenty years old, at least.

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There's a term for this kind of accumulation: aspirational clutter. Stuff kept not for what it is but for what it allows you to keep believing about yourself. The yoga mat that represents the person who practices regularly. The guitar that represents the person who plays whenever possible. The cookbooks that represent the person who tries new recipes on weekends.

In my case, the business books represented the person who was still building something, still in the game, still going to sit down one day and do the reading that would make the next thing go better.

Getting rid of them would have meant admitting that person wasn't coming. That the transition period those books were purchased for had ended a long time ago, without the resolution I'd been preparing for. The books weren't taking up much physical space — just over one shelf in a bookcase. But they were holding a story in place. And I wasn't ready to let the story go.

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I've been thinking about this in the context of the Assess step — the part of the ISO process where you stop and look at what's actually there before making any decisions.

Most of the time, assessment is practical. How many do I have? How much space does this category take up? Is this a volume problem or a placement problem? Those are the questions that expose duplicates and reveal what's really going on in a space.

But sometimes assessment is something else. Sometimes it's the moment when you finally see an item clearly — not what you've been telling yourself it is, but what it actually is. Not the story attached to it, but the object itself, sitting on a shelf for twenty years, unread, waiting for a version of you that has quietly stopped being the plan.

That clarity doesn't always require pulling everything out and sorting it. Sometimes it arrives through an honest conversation. Sometimes it comes from writing something down and seeing it plainly for the first time. The mechanism matters less than the result — the moment when you stop seeing what you need an item to be and start seeing what it actually is.

It's worth saying that this kind of recognition doesn't always end in letting go. Sometimes you look at something honestly, understand exactly what story it's been holding, and decide the story is still worth keeping. That's a valid decision too — one made with clear eyes instead of avoidance. The Assess step doesn't demand elimination. It demands honesty. What you do with that honesty is yours to decide.

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I don't need those books.

Not because business knowledge has become irrelevant to me or because I've given up on building things. But because the specific someday those books were purchased for has passed. Whatever comes next for me, I won't be prepared for it by reading books I've owned for two decades and never opened. If I need to learn something, I'll find what's relevant to the actual problem in front of me, not anticipated problems from twenty years ago.

The books can go. I know that now without touching them, without sorting anything, just from finally being honest about what I've been holding onto and why.

That's what the Assess step is really asking. Not just how much space does this take up — but what is this actually doing here? What story is it holding in place? And is that story still true?

Sometimes the most useful things you can sort through aren't physical at all.